I don’t dream about you anymore. I haven’t for quite some
time. Tonight is one of those nights in which I can’t sleep and I’m thinking
about everything that my brain can grab onto. Violet is asleep. She’s been
sharing my bed for some time now. As I lay beside her, listening to her breathe
(and snore a little), feeling the dog and a couple of cats nestled in around
us, you came crashing in. Not as a dream, or as a specific memory. It was the
lack of you; the absence if you will. The “memories of George were once here”
came in like a battering ram. And then there it was. There you were…but not.
I still miss grieving sometimes. I miss having my body
wracked with pain at the sheer enormity of the cavern you left only to have
your spirit come in and fill that space, warming the room with that comforting,
sweet feeling of loss. I couldn’t make you not-dead but I could have the next
best thing. Grief kept you close. It kept you real. Now it seems that you’re
not even a ghost, but a ghost of a memory instead and that…THAT. That leaves me
hollow. That brings tears.
I miss you so. I am sure you know this and I am sure you
want to see me continue to move on. Now that the tragedies that have befallen
since you died are healing one-by-one, I am finally looking at living in the “real”
world again. It’s a strange place, and I don’t like it as much without you in
it but I guess it’s that absence, that vacuous cavern, which keeps me vigilant.
I am not without my scars. They are harsh and they are deep but I can overlook
those when other things come in to distract me. I’m still here no matter what.
But you are gone…so very far gone. I wish I could just dream of you again.